The Word that you need to digest

I have been looking for the right articles to write and to share to you these past few days to help you with your life somehow. We all have struggles and problem that we need to face alone in our life that sometimes we tend to feel devastated whenever those decisions that we had never actually solve the problem and worst it add up to the problem. I am no expert in solving problems because sometimes I do create them and put myself in a place where I appear to be hard headed girl and pathetic because my decisions are no good.

I just want to share that in life when you had a bad decisions that it seems like it made everything worst it does not mean that you are a bad person. Mistakes are lesson and it will lead you to the person that you supposed to be. We just do not see it right now because that is how it works. You have to experience first the effect of the decisions that you made so that you will know the gravity of that wrong decisions which afterwards will lead you to the clearer path. The only thing that we must possess whenever we are in bad times is to be Patient.

Well personally every time I say or heard the word patient, my chest becomes heavy and I started to breathe deeply. Just because I am impatient and I bet there are people out there who are impatient too. Well being patient is actually a learning process and it is very looooooong process before you will achieve that. I actually want to be patient because as they say when a person is patient, great gifts will be given to him at the end. So I searched and looked for the definition of the word patient before doing the process. And I found out that the word patient literally means waiting with a positive attitude.

I want to scream because the word waiting is very frustrating already. I mean how can a person wait for a period of time into something that he does not know if that thing or person that he is waiting will arrive??? and with positive attitude??? like come on!!! (this is my initial reaction which literally impatient)

But then when I think of my past I realized that I should have wait for the right time to fall in love, I should have wait longer before deciding, I should have listen to what my mind says before letting my emotions dominate my body. I should have exercise to be patient so that everything will fall on its place.. I know that it is too late to fix the damage that I have done but it will never be too late to be patient.

Waiting while smiling is very hard at the beginning but I learn a effective trick to be patient and that is diverting your attention to something and make your time more productive while waiting then whatever or whoever you are waiting it will come to you with a surprise. Then all the waiting time is actually worth it..

If you had mistakes in the past just let it go and start another chapter of your life with some great attitude like being patient..Have a nice day everyone....

Acknowledging your ANGER

To continue my articles about "anger", I want to share some points why do you need to take out all your hatred and grudge from your heart and soul. But before that, I want you to know the best activity that makes you relax by just doing it. Why I asked this? It is because as a person or as an emotional human being, you have to know how you are going to relieve yourself from something that you can't spill out. If something is bothering you or making you stop to say something to a person because it is just too much inside then you need to have an OUTLET.

I personally call it "personal space" where you can just be with yourself, say anything that you want, think anything and just release all the stress and be relieved. Yes, anger and stress is related and directly connected because when a person has these strong negative emotions that are hidden inside and if kept for a long time, it will subconsciously affect that person.

To be more specific, when you are angry at someone and you just can’t say it because maybe you are not in the right position to say it to him, you do not want to get involved into some arguments, you think it will be useless to say it because it will not change anything or you just don’t have the strength to say it, these emotions will add up inside you until it became a hole that will consume you.

Negative emotions such as anger, frustration, disappointments and other strong feelings can cause stress to a person. But did you know that stress can actually help you to focus? Stress is actually a defense mechanism of the body once a person is in danger. It will help the person to focus on a certain task because of the adrenaline and cortisol hormones which are the major stress hormones to be released once a person is in danger or meeting a deadline. But when these stress hormones will stay in the circulation and if this will not stop because you are consistently having some danger (emotional, physical, spiritual and mental) then this can cause another danger to a person.

If you are angry at someone, you have to say it to that person so that your body will be able to relax afterwards. Whenever a person is angry or have a negative feelings into something, like I said the stress hormones will be activated and focus on that negative emotions. The heart rate of the person will be faster, breathing will be faster, digestion will slowdown, muscles are contracted and the person is alert and active. So imagine this energy that will pile up inside of you when you will not able to say your anger to a person. When this will continue, your heart will be tired pumping, your lungs will slowdown, you will not feel hungry or do not have any appetite, there will be a muscle pains everywhere because of the contracted muscles and you will feel weak and very tired always.

Everything will be falling apart on you so you before anything else, say what you need to say to that person. If you love yourself you should tell to that person that you are angry at him and let him know that what he did is wrong. When you want decide to spill the bean it does not mean that you are picking a fight or disrespecting that person. It only means that you love yourself that you would not want to be stressed out. If you can’t tell it using your voice then you can say it by letter or a text message.

I know that it will be hard at first but once you burst out (without hostility) your stress hormones will be minimized and you will feel relieved. If you think that your decision to speak up did not work out then you can just do your “outlet” and let all your frustration, anger, disappointment take it away. After that Breathe in, breathe out then go to sleep.

 

How to Response to Anger

Anger is a very strong feelings in which a person will not able to balance the right and wrong because he is focus on his emotions and wanted to just spill it out to someone. Like I said on my other article about anger, it is best to count first before speaking once you are angry because this will activate the domination of the cerebral cortex (the center of rationalization) so that every word that will come out from you is rightful.

Now what if you are the one that has been shouted at by a very angry person? What will be your initial reaction? Like they say, you will never stop the fire with another fire. But what will you do when a person suddenly shout at you? Here are the simple things that you can do whenever a person will be angry at you regardless you did something wrong or not.

Most of the time when a person is angry his emotion has been disrespected and his ego have been violated. The first thing you need to do is to listen to what he wants to say no matter how he said it. I know that it is hard to everyone to listen when the tone of voice of the person talking is not pleasant to the ears. When a person is sarcastic, cursing and shouting at you it will hurt your ego as well but if you are willing to clear the air and fix the problem you have to close your mouth and listen to that person.

I know it will be hard to do but you can make yourself relax while listening when you sit down and rest your back. You have to do the breathing exercise (inhale deeply and exhale through your mouth). You can look straight to that person so that he will feel that you are respecting his feelings. An angry person will comes back to his rational self after a few minutes of talking so this is the time that you can talk and tell your side of story.

I am emphasizing this because sometimes relationships tear down due to mishandling of situation like this. You have to remember if you really want your relationship to continue, you have to try your best to understand each other and not just let your emotion ruin everything in just a snap. Sit down, relax, breath and then talk.

Anger-How it ruins your personality

Anger is a strong feeling that sometimes the brain is not thinking anymore because the person is controlled by that emotion. It is like holding a very hot stone which you want to throw to someone but in the end you will be the one who gets burned. What happens to your brain and body when you are angry and you just blurt it out?

The brain is very complicated to understand but I will just make it simple for us to really understand what is happening why a person becomes hostile when angry. First you need to know is the structures of the brain that is responsible for thinking or rationalizing, feeling and emotions. Your cerebral cortex is located on your frontal lobe which is responsible why a person is thinking. This is the main part of the brain that processes all the information that needs to have decision. The right and wrong, the advantage and disadvantages of certain situation before finally decide on what to do. When talking about the feelings and emotions, it is regulated by a tiny bean structure called limbic system that is located below the cortex. Then the amygdala is part of the limbic system that is responsible in storing emotional memories.

Now when a person is stimulated by a person, situation or anything that triggers certain memory the amygdala will decide where to send the message to cerebral cortex or to limbic system. Now when the message will trigger intense emotion the amygdale will send the message to the limbic system and anger is activated. The limbic system is a part of the brain that there is no processing of rationalization or any evaluation if the act is right or wrong but it focuses only to the feelings and emotions. On top of this, when a person is angry there will be a significant decrease of serotonin (hormones that makes you feel happy) level on the brain.

When you are angry, you will be able to deliver the best speech in the world that you will regret later. Why? When your limbic system dominates and you let it control you, your cerebral cortex will interfere after a couple of minutes. This is the reason why experts recommended you to count before you talk because when your brain is able to count numbers it means that you are letting your cerebral cortex to dominate and not your limbic system. After the counting your brain will be able to weight the words that you should say and should not.

I just want to share this information so that you will think twice before saying something to all the people that is important to you. We are all humans and we bound to make a lot of mistakes but this is one of the conditions that we can control so that we will not hurt anyone and ourselves. Just like I said, if you are angry you will just throw a hot stone that will bounce back at you. Let your cerebral cortex dominate when you want to burst out.

Facts about sleep (recharging)

Before hitting the bed tonight there are things that you have to know about sleep.

1.       Hormones that can help you sleep

è Kids are given milk before sleeping because the tryptophan chemical which is present in the milk will stimulate the brain to relax all the voluntary muscles. This is one reason that we may feel the heaviness of our body as well as the sleepy eyes. On the other hand parents should be reminded that they must give milk an hour before their kids will be lying on their bed because their stomach will be busy digesting this which makes the body alive.

2.       Position during asleep

è The position of a person should when asleep should be changing in different positions so that certain parts of the body will not be cramping (tingling sensation). If you are meticulous about your skin you have to place yourself on a supine (lying on your back) position so that your face will not be crashed by the pillow. If you are doing prone position (lying on your tummy) there is a higher chance that you will develop fine lines, wrinkles and skin impurities. This is a result from rubbing the face on the pillows and not to mention all the oil that you can get from it that came from your hair.

3.       Enough hours of sleep

è Enough sleep means the body was able to recover from any damages from the previous days. Enough sleep means your body is rejuvenated, relaxed and energized to start the day right. The infant needs at least 16 hours of sleep while toddler needs to have 12 to 14 hours of sleep. The main reason behind this is because their body still growing and the body will only be working on the body’s growth and development during at sleep.

Moreover the most important thing that you need to know about sleep is your bed because you will not be able to get a good sleep if you are not comfortable on where you are lying down. Have a good night sleep everyone!!!

Sleep first before going to the battle

Before getting yourself equipped to face certain problems in your life, you have to make sure that you have a good sleep. A good sleep can improve your memory which can help you remember the important details in the past that might help you fix the problem. What happens to the brain when you are at sleep if you may ask? I did some research about this and I have found out that when a person is asleep, everything will slow down except your neurons (brain cells). Your brain is actually working to all the information that you gathered from the time that you are working so that any important information will be locked in to your long term memory.

This is one of the factors why dreams are created because your brain is actually processing all the happening that you have experience on that day. If I say sleeping this means 6 to 8 hours a day because your brain will not able to finish the process if you will have not achieve the deep sleep or what they call REM (Rapid Eye Movement) stage of sleep. Your brain will start to process all the information on your brain once you will be in this stage which is will start in the first 3 hours after you hit the bed.

That is for your brain but how about for your whole body? Like I said your body will slow down (even your breathing and your cardiac activity). When your body is at rest everything will slow down because this is the time that your cells will repair the damage cells and get rid of any toxins on your body which is why you will feel rejuvenated and very energetic once you get up from your bed.

Now if you want to have a successful day tomorrow, better fix your bed first and have a good night sleep.

It all begins here

I wanted to create a new blog that will inspire other person because I have a lot of ideas in mind which sometimes I can't even handle it. If you can read my poems, it is actually a representation of how impulsive I am. I am not a good writer nor perfect in terms of grammar but I have this mind that latch on from different idea to another. My brain is very imaginative that when I think of something that inspires me I just want to write it out because sometimes people misinterpret my act. I am very wild in terms of my imagination and make everything complicated. I do not know why but that is who I am and instead of changing that I am looking for a way to enhance it and use it in a way that I can influence the others. Thank you to all the individuals that have read my poems. I know that they are crazy and trash (ouch!) but I am proud of this because I can boast to all that these poems or articles are original. I wanted to write something that will expose how I feel about the world because we only got one life to live and if you will live it the way people want then it is not a life after all.

All I want to say is, if you want to live your life then you need to follow the things that you want and do not care about the other people (unless they are your real friends and family) because they will not help you in times that you will be in trouble. Life is like battlefield but you have to know what weapon you will use to surpass all the challenges.

As for me, I wanted to use the entire possible weapon that is available on my table so whenever you are ready to win the fight with me, just tell me!!!