How to Response to Anger

Anger is a very strong feelings in which a person will not able to balance the right and wrong because he is focus on his emotions and wanted to just spill it out to someone. Like I said on my other article about anger, it is best to count first before speaking once you are angry because this will activate the domination of the cerebral cortex (the center of rationalization) so that every word that will come out from you is rightful.

Now what if you are the one that has been shouted at by a very angry person? What will be your initial reaction? Like they say, you will never stop the fire with another fire. But what will you do when a person suddenly shout at you? Here are the simple things that you can do whenever a person will be angry at you regardless you did something wrong or not.

Most of the time when a person is angry his emotion has been disrespected and his ego have been violated. The first thing you need to do is to listen to what he wants to say no matter how he said it. I know that it is hard to everyone to listen when the tone of voice of the person talking is not pleasant to the ears. When a person is sarcastic, cursing and shouting at you it will hurt your ego as well but if you are willing to clear the air and fix the problem you have to close your mouth and listen to that person.

I know it will be hard to do but you can make yourself relax while listening when you sit down and rest your back. You have to do the breathing exercise (inhale deeply and exhale through your mouth). You can look straight to that person so that he will feel that you are respecting his feelings. An angry person will comes back to his rational self after a few minutes of talking so this is the time that you can talk and tell your side of story.

I am emphasizing this because sometimes relationships tear down due to mishandling of situation like this. You have to remember if you really want your relationship to continue, you have to try your best to understand each other and not just let your emotion ruin everything in just a snap. Sit down, relax, breath and then talk.