The Word that you need to digest

I have been looking for the right articles to write and to share to you these past few days to help you with your life somehow. We all have struggles and problem that we need to face alone in our life that sometimes we tend to feel devastated whenever those decisions that we had never actually solve the problem and worst it add up to the problem. I am no expert in solving problems because sometimes I do create them and put myself in a place where I appear to be hard headed girl and pathetic because my decisions are no good.

I just want to share that in life when you had a bad decisions that it seems like it made everything worst it does not mean that you are a bad person. Mistakes are lesson and it will lead you to the person that you supposed to be. We just do not see it right now because that is how it works. You have to experience first the effect of the decisions that you made so that you will know the gravity of that wrong decisions which afterwards will lead you to the clearer path. The only thing that we must possess whenever we are in bad times is to be Patient.

Well personally every time I say or heard the word patient, my chest becomes heavy and I started to breathe deeply. Just because I am impatient and I bet there are people out there who are impatient too. Well being patient is actually a learning process and it is very looooooong process before you will achieve that. I actually want to be patient because as they say when a person is patient, great gifts will be given to him at the end. So I searched and looked for the definition of the word patient before doing the process. And I found out that the word patient literally means waiting with a positive attitude.

I want to scream because the word waiting is very frustrating already. I mean how can a person wait for a period of time into something that he does not know if that thing or person that he is waiting will arrive??? and with positive attitude??? like come on!!! (this is my initial reaction which literally impatient)

But then when I think of my past I realized that I should have wait for the right time to fall in love, I should have wait longer before deciding, I should have listen to what my mind says before letting my emotions dominate my body. I should have exercise to be patient so that everything will fall on its place.. I know that it is too late to fix the damage that I have done but it will never be too late to be patient.

Waiting while smiling is very hard at the beginning but I learn a effective trick to be patient and that is diverting your attention to something and make your time more productive while waiting then whatever or whoever you are waiting it will come to you with a surprise. Then all the waiting time is actually worth it..

If you had mistakes in the past just let it go and start another chapter of your life with some great attitude like being patient..Have a nice day everyone....

Acknowledging your ANGER

To continue my articles about "anger", I want to share some points why do you need to take out all your hatred and grudge from your heart and soul. But before that, I want you to know the best activity that makes you relax by just doing it. Why I asked this? It is because as a person or as an emotional human being, you have to know how you are going to relieve yourself from something that you can't spill out. If something is bothering you or making you stop to say something to a person because it is just too much inside then you need to have an OUTLET.

I personally call it "personal space" where you can just be with yourself, say anything that you want, think anything and just release all the stress and be relieved. Yes, anger and stress is related and directly connected because when a person has these strong negative emotions that are hidden inside and if kept for a long time, it will subconsciously affect that person.

To be more specific, when you are angry at someone and you just can’t say it because maybe you are not in the right position to say it to him, you do not want to get involved into some arguments, you think it will be useless to say it because it will not change anything or you just don’t have the strength to say it, these emotions will add up inside you until it became a hole that will consume you.

Negative emotions such as anger, frustration, disappointments and other strong feelings can cause stress to a person. But did you know that stress can actually help you to focus? Stress is actually a defense mechanism of the body once a person is in danger. It will help the person to focus on a certain task because of the adrenaline and cortisol hormones which are the major stress hormones to be released once a person is in danger or meeting a deadline. But when these stress hormones will stay in the circulation and if this will not stop because you are consistently having some danger (emotional, physical, spiritual and mental) then this can cause another danger to a person.

If you are angry at someone, you have to say it to that person so that your body will be able to relax afterwards. Whenever a person is angry or have a negative feelings into something, like I said the stress hormones will be activated and focus on that negative emotions. The heart rate of the person will be faster, breathing will be faster, digestion will slowdown, muscles are contracted and the person is alert and active. So imagine this energy that will pile up inside of you when you will not able to say your anger to a person. When this will continue, your heart will be tired pumping, your lungs will slowdown, you will not feel hungry or do not have any appetite, there will be a muscle pains everywhere because of the contracted muscles and you will feel weak and very tired always.

Everything will be falling apart on you so you before anything else, say what you need to say to that person. If you love yourself you should tell to that person that you are angry at him and let him know that what he did is wrong. When you want decide to spill the bean it does not mean that you are picking a fight or disrespecting that person. It only means that you love yourself that you would not want to be stressed out. If you can’t tell it using your voice then you can say it by letter or a text message.

I know that it will be hard at first but once you burst out (without hostility) your stress hormones will be minimized and you will feel relieved. If you think that your decision to speak up did not work out then you can just do your “outlet” and let all your frustration, anger, disappointment take it away. After that Breathe in, breathe out then go to sleep.